Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Mom's take on the matter

So I know most of the Nathan's blog readers don't necessarily live in Conway and aren't all subscribers to the Log Cabin Democrat, but I wrote a column this past week about the way I feel about motherhood after a year and I thought it would be easier to just post it here rather than ramble on trying to explain it. So here it is:

Working on my motherhood degree
By JESSICA BAUER
LOG CABIN STAFF WRITER
It's a difficult thing for me to both admit and believe, but I have been a mother for a year now.
My little five-pound bundle of joy born last July celebrated his first birthday with two count them, two huge blow-out bashes over the past few weeks and has shoved more than his share of cupcakes into his face over that time period.
Yes, he is a full-grown 25-pound toddler now, and as I work everyday to talk to teachers, principals and kids across Faulkner County about what they are learning and why they are learning it, I have never stopped to think about just how much I've learned in the past 12 months.
My son and I took off a few hours from work and day care Monday morning to visit the pediatrician's office for the 12-month check-up and a few not-so-fun shots and as I watched him interact with other babies and move about the waiting room, I realized that as much as he has learned in his short lifetime, I've learned even more.
So to mark one of the most important milestones in my life, I'd like to share a few of those lessons with my readers.
Yes, I have a high school diploma and right after that came a bachelor's degree from University of Central Arkansas so I'd like to think I'm a pretty educated person. But the day that little boy was born, I came to the realization I did not have any type of degree in motherhood.
Sure, I've read a few of the books and I've listened to a few pieces of advice from my mom, mother-in-law and every other woman I've ever met who's now a mother, but my husband and I mostly figured it out for ourselves.
And the biggest realization I've made recently is that it all goes by entirely too fast.
Everyone is using the word "toddler" in conversation with me now, and although he can't quite "toddle" just yet, he's getting a lot closer to "kid" and a lot further from "baby."
Since last summer I've learned a baby's cough can really just be a cough, formula only tastes good to babies (don't ask), teething really does hurt and a cell phone is better than any toy Fisher-Price can invent.
In one year, we've gone from bottles to cups, from smiles to laughs, from babbles to my new favorite word, "mama," and there is no telling what's next for us.
I feel like I just came back to work after a three-month maternity leave and the worst thing about it is I'm told by other mothers that the years to come will fly right by, too.
From first-day-of-kindergarten tears to skinned knees from baseball to the teenage years, my kid and I have a lot to learn.
No, I was not classically trained in parenting before July 7, 2007, and I know I have plenty of new experiences ahead of me, but there has to be some kind of honorary degree I've earned this far in.
I don't have an instruction manual for where we've been or where we're going, but in my mind, I'm working hard toward my doctorate in motherhood.

1 comment:

Nana said...

loved the column!- this is just the beginning -just you wait- Motherhood is God's greatest gift and one of the busiest and sometimes hardest jobs you will ever "love"! I am very proud of you.. and your family!

Love ya Mom (Nana)