Tuesday, June 10, 2014

Easy Eight

It's been eight years since I met my husband at the end of the aisle.

It's been seven years since we became parents for the first time, completely clueless and head over heels.
It's been six years since we faced difficult decisions about what we wanted for our future.
It's been five years since we picked up everything we built in central Arkansas and started over in our new home.
It's been four years since our faith was tested and our hearts were torn by the loss of a baby.
It's been three years since our family of three gained a spunky fourth with dark brown eyes and a wild hair.
It's been two years since half of our duo moved into a new decade {and the other half isn't far behind}.
It's been one year since this two of a kind reached a full house with the addition of Nora June.

Today is our eighth wedding anniversary, and it still feels like it happened yesterday. I can still feel the humid air threatening my perfectly curled hair and weighing heavy against my white, beaded gown. I can see the pews of friends and family, watching the very first moments of the Bauer Bunch. I can hear my sister-in-law reading the scripture that has served as the cornerstone for countless marriages. It highlighted exactly what kind of love God wanted for us, and it has been an absolute truth over the past eight years. "It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."

We've been through a lot since that hot day in June. That was the day we signed the paper that legally joined us together, but one thing I've realized since fretting over the dress, the flowers, and every detail imaginable is that it is so much more than a piece of paper. It is so much more than calla lilies and jumbo shrimp, bridesmaid dresses and boutineers. It's so much more than just that one moment in time. While that day was an amazing celebration of the joining of two families and the beginning of a new one, it's about our love.

As you can read from the beginning of the post {and already know if you've read here for awhile}, our lives have not always been a walk in the park, but the best thing about everything we've been through is that we went through it together. Since that moment at my Mema's house when Jonathan asked me to be his girlfriend to the moment in the church nine months later to that moment this morning when he told me he loved me, we've been together. We've disagreed and fought, yelled and screamed, but we have always done it together. And together, we've always figured it out. More is coming, too. More heartbreak, more joy, and more uncertainty. I will never take for granted the fact that he's the one constant.

In the grand scheme of things, eight years is just a small part of my life, but what an eight years it's been. I know I sound cheesy and perhaps unbelievable to those who don't know me, but I love this dude a little more with every anniversary. Those kids who exchanged rings had no idea what was coming, and had no idea what their love would become. Love is absolutely not just something that I say or something that I'm in, it's something that I do. Every single day of the last eight years and every single day of the rest of my life. Life can be tough, complicated, overwhelming, and unforgiving, but this love? This love is easy. I thank God every day that I found it.

Eight years of wedded bliss and still working it.

Happy Anniversary, Jonathan! I am hands down the luckiest.

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Unknown said...

I was so honored to have spoken those words on that day, because I knew how deeply you and my dorky little brother would live them. I love you, seester. <3

Jessica Bauer said...

Love you, too, sees! No one else could have done those words justice.

Dr. Margaret Rutherford said...

Jessica, a lovely post and tribute to the depth of your marriage. I have had the honor of working with people who have lost children to death. I can only understand through them what it could have been like for you and your husband. I hope you enjoyed this anniversary and many more to come.

Unknown said...

As usual, I'm late on my comments, but Happy Anniversary. I loved this post.