Tuesday, January 13, 2015

Time to Stop

I know we are now well into the New Year, but I am still riding that wave.

I am still daydreaming of ways to improve my life, become a better person, and enjoy my time. I'm dissecting each month and I'm jotting down goals. Saying and doing are two different beasts, however, and sometimes there are roadblocks. Today I am sharing four of my roadblocks. For my sake and the sake of those around me, these are the things I desperately need to stop doing in 2015:

Comparing. This one doesn't need much explanation, does it? We all know comparison is the thief of joy, and I've written about that fact a handful of times, but knowing it is different than living it. It's time to stop comparing myself to other people, and only use the measurement of how far I've come. I mean it. {Promise.}

Waiting. Time to admit a personality quirk. I can easily become so anxious about all the things I need to do, that I simply don't do them. Whether it's a blinking cursor on a blank page or an unplanned youth event, I just wait. One thing I've learned posing as a grown-up for a decade is that the time is rarely right. Let's just get stuff done.

Worrying. If I could honestly accomplish this, I would come to your house and give you one high-five and a million bucks. I know I can't completely stop worrying, but I shouldn't worry about things I can't change. On any given day, I have so many different things haunting my mind, blurring the work in front of me or interrupting time with my kids. This year I want to become more self-assured. I bet I'm doing something right every once in a while.

Yelling. Ooh, that looks ugly, doesn't it? Admitting it makes me cringe, but this is something I need to change. Three is a big number when it comes to offspring, and I let that overwhelm me more than I should. The fuse on my temper shortens more each year, and I need to take it back. My kids deserve a level-headed mama {even if it means a few stolen minutes/Oreos in the bathroom}. TL;DR: Parenting is hard. Yelling doesn't make it easier.

I am sure there are more, but those four are the biggies. Cutting these from my life would do wonders for my sanity, and my sanity directly affects the well-being of those around me. A win-win! I do have a list of things I want to do in the New Year, but I think this is the key to getting there. Could you stand to ditch a few of these things? Can you add any more to my list?

I hope y'all have had a fantastic start to 2015. I've got a good feeling about this one, friends. Happy Tuesday!

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Georgeanne said...

I know what you mean about waiting. But honestly? Once I START, it's okay! It's just the starting that's hard, haha.

Jessica Bauer said...

YES! Georgeanne, that is my issue. I'm good to go and full of motivation once I take the first step. It's just always such a chore to take it.

Unknown said...

Just yesterday I was yelling at my kids in the car and thought how terrible of a mother I sounded. I remembered that other mothers do it too. It made me feel slightly better, knowing I am not alone, but I don't like justifying it.

Jessica Bauer said...

You are FAR from alone!! It's an ugly truth that I'd imagine most mamas carry. It's easy to get frustrated, but sometimes it's hard to back off. Here's to calming down and doing better in 2015!